ADVICE: FOR DATING A GAY MAN WHILE TRANSGENDER
after Toaster
ADVICE:
do not tell him
you are a girl
he does not want
a girl
he wants a boy
i mean
a man
he wants a man who
shaves himself soft and smooth
like a girl
i mean
a little boy
i mean a man who
as a little boy
was bullied in school
for being
too
girl
i mean gay
i mean twink
i mean man
he wants everyone to know you are a man
he will remind you in case you forget
because
he
loves
men
he does not
love
girls
the way he grabs a woman’s tits at the bar
it’s a joke
it’s funny
it’s ironic
it’s safe because
he does not want a girl
he wants
a man
and he’ll call a woman
girl
and he’ll call a man
girl
hell
he’ll even call you girl
just
don’t
be
A girl
he does
not
want
a girl
sure you can try Girl on
like a dress
as long as it’s
on stage
in make-up
a crowd
cheering and hollering
at the joke see
it’s funny see
it’s ironic
how Girl
and Not-Girl
you can be
he does not want a girl
he wants
a body
i mean
a boy
i mean
a man
a man who’s
body
is shaped like a boy
one that is soft
and tender
and easy to chew into
like a girl
jamie mortara is a queer poet, performer, publisher, organizer, and artist currently based in Portland, OR. They grew up in New Jersey and have learned to stop apologizing for it. Jamie is author of the poetry collection “some planet” (YesYes Books) and the interactive fiction collection “small creatures / wide field” (tNY Press). Three of their DIY zines are indie bestsellers and the others are likely scattered to the winds somewhere. Jamie is founder of the audio poetry magazine Voicemail Poems, a National Poetry Slam competitor, and host of Slamlandia. jamie holds an MFA from UNCW, is a proud Capricorn, and sells handwritten tarot readings through the mail. More about jamie can be found at jamiemortara.com.
